Who doesn’t want to be happy?!
It’s something we all strive for on a daily basis… and why shouldn’t we, it’s what makes life worth living. But the older you get, you soon realise that being happy is a lot harder than it sounds.
Just going through the motions every day and living life doesn’t seem to guarantee us happiness. You can be surrounded with everything you need or want but still not feel 100% happy. And if you don’t have everything you need or want, how can you still be happy?
Why is there some women who seem happy no matter what? We’ve all encounter at least one of these people over our lives that no matter where they are, what they do or what happens they are happy.
So The YOU Workout Team and I decided to look into this more. We researched and interviewed lots of truly happy women. Women who were happy not as a front with a smile but all the way through inside. And we realised one crucial thing in all our conversations. You have to work on, nurture and develop happiness daily. It is a habit not a given emotion.
We had never thought of happiness as a habit until a few months ago when we did this investigation, and have come to realise that being a truly happy woman is more about the things you do, rather than the emotion.
So here are the first 5 habits we found that all these women do to create their own happiness.
This topic can be a lot to digest so that’s why we’ve split it up into two parts and broken down each tip to make it easier for YOU to work this happiness thing out…..And, most importantly, take action to truly be and feel at your best.
This is a real life-changer. Every day give gratitude as soon as you wake up. Start with basics like being thankful for being alive, the house you live in, hot water or anything like that. Then over time once you get in to the swing of things you can build this out and develop it more. And do the same again when you go to bed. Be grateful for what you have done, achieved or experienced in a day. Even if it’s been bad, be grateful for the body you have, the food you have eaten… again, you can keep it simple.
Every happy woman we spoke to said that they did this on a daily basis, and it’s one of the quickest and most effective ways to shift your mood in an instant.
If you want to really make this habit, why not put a journal by the side of your bed and as soon as you wake and before you go to sleep write 5 things that you are grateful for.
2. Prioritise self care
Happy people realise that the most important thing in life is your health and wellbeing – whether that’s physical, mental or emotional. So they invest in and prioritise (both in time and money) services, treatments, activities and appointments they need to achieve this. Whether it’s going to a pilates class, having their hair done, putting a face mask on or just having some time to relax…. their self care is always top of the list.
When we live a busy life with 101 things to do every day we can often forget how important this is for your YOU. So why not start scheduling these things in to your dairy every day and every week first, then arrange the rest of your life around them.
3. Compliment others
Have you ever received a random compliment from someone you don’t know? Or someone has smiled at you randomly and it’s forced you to smile back? If you have, you know what an impact that can have on your whole day.
But here’s the thing. it makes you feel as good giving these compliments as much as it does to receive them.
So don’t be shy – and if you admire someone’s style, aura or ethic, say so. Look for something you compliment everyday. Because this little act also links back to gratitude and appreciating what’s around you.
4. Don’t care what others think
We can all get obsessed with other people’s opinions, but we found the happiest people care the least. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean having to be egotistic or a #%*!. It just means they are confident in being themselves and not worrying about what other people think.
At the end of the day if everyone likes you or you strive to please everyone you meet – you most probably are not being authentic to you. And this inauthenticity can become a real emotional burden over time that stands in the way of your happiness.
Now, for many of us self doubt and a lack of self belief can stop us being proud of who we truly are. It’s hard to not worry about what other people think of you if you question yourself too.
So to give you an extra helping hand this month, we’re running a free 5 day challenge to help eliminate that pesky self doubt and to give you the confidence boost you need to be YOU and not worry about anyone else. You can find out more and join in here.
5. Let go of grudges
Holding a grudge actually hurts you more than the person you are resenting. The more you hold on to negative feelings about someone or something, the more they erode your happiness and just make you feel bad.
Whether you forgive the person to their face, write them a letter (even if you don’t send it) or just internally forgive them… it doesn’t matter, as long as you let go one way or the other and move on.
Next week in part 2, we’ll look at the other key habits and tips for making happiness a daily habit by working on YOU.
And, if you try or have tried any of the top tips I’ve shared with you today, I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback below in the comments feed.
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